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Recently I saw the movie, See Jane Date. Boy did it tick me off in many ways. First off, Jane is what I consider a relatively well-adjusted professional woman about 30 something living in New York City. Most, if not all of her friends are either married, getting married or have boyfriends. Currently, Jane has neither a boyfriend nor a husband and her cousins’ wedding is coming up in a month.
Everyone expects her to show up with Mr. Wonderful. This story is about the desperate measures she allows herself to go through to get a date before the wedding so she will not look like a schlep (an idiot or a loser). I could really feel both her pain and her repeated embarrassment as her friends tried to fix her up on dates while she lied over and over about being involved with some doctor.
For those of you who have seen this movie, you know it is really sad. There are some things you should NEVER allow yourself to do or allow to be done to you. There are certain standards we should all have and never compromise them. There are many life lessons that can be gleaned here. I saw them in Jane’s life and in the lives of many women (and some men) I work with.
Avoid these 7 dating disasters at all costs:
1. Never allow your value or self worth as a person depend on having a mate.
2. Never compromise who you are for what others think of you
3. Refuse to be defined by your marital status.
4. If a guy (or a woman for that matter) makes comments that put you down or make you feel bad; leave them for the loser they are.
5. Learn to be happy and content with you. After all, you really do have to live with you!
6. Being part a couple doesn’t make you a whole person. No other person can make you whole. Wholeness is something you must work on and achieve before you can even consider being a viable partner in any relationship.
7. You be the chooser. Refuse to allow yourself be on anyone’s “meat market” Your life – Your choices!
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